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The internet is home to countless articles, videos, and quotes about how to be happy in a relationship. Not settling for less than you deserve. Texts to send a guy to make him fall in love with you. Like much of our society, we are looking at things from a surface or result oriented standpoint. We see the Ferrari, or the diamond necklace, or the big house on the hill. The happy relationship.
Nobody prepares you for the years of sacrifice and destitution you may have to face on your way to financial success, just like nobody prepares you for the lone introspection and self-work that needs to be done before you can enter into a happy, healthy relationship. I think this is a vastly overlooked — but endlessly important — point we need to make about relationships.
That's right, you must be happy with yourself first. When was the last time you went out to dinner alone without feeling uncomfortable? When was the last time you sat at a bar and talked to a stranger?
When was the last time you were truly alone with yourself and not checking your phone every 5 seconds? The truth is, there are plenty of happy single people out there, and plenty of miserable people who ended up in the wrong relationship because they thought it was better than being single. You learn, you evolve, and you grow without any lanes to stay in or lines to color in. You freely become who you genuinely are and something very important happens while you do this. You learn what types of people you want in your life because you understand who is going to enhance your happiness and who is going to draw from it.
The only way to prevent that from happening is to develop yourself as an individual over time — you must be happy with yourself first. This is exactly why most people do it. This is exactly why people think they will be just fine if they get right into another relationship and repeat their same patterns again. Happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction are all an inside job. They do not come from your bank balance or your car or your relationship.
They come from within you. And we are losing sight of how to identify that and truly feel good about who we are as individuals. Fill yourself up first. Learn and grow and change and evolve and become the person you choose to be. Then — and only then — will you learn what type of person will best complement you along this journey of life.
This article was originally published at James Michael Sama. Reprinted with permission from the author. in. YourTango Experts.
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