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We might have a shot at being chosen. I wondered if I would be able to connect with them and influence their ideas and behavior through the mass medium of prime-time TV. So last April, I found myself on board an airplane heading to a home in North Carolina to trade places for a week with a woman who was heading to my home at Maitreya Ecovillage, an urban community of 30 people in Eugene, Oregon.
My intention was to intrigue some of the millions of viewers of this TV show with the idea that one can live a more ecologically sustainable life while becoming happier. I did feel some concern Wife swap community how our family might be portrayed on TV as film editors can affect how viewers perceive what was filmedbut we figured our reputations were worth sacrificing for the opportunity to potentially help shift the consciousness of so many people.
I also comforted myself with the thought that our family and friends would still love us no matter how the show turned out. I was wrong. The family members were not yet there, so I had time to read the manual describing the life I was to lead for half my weeklong visit, before I would change the rules of the household to be more compatible with my own values and lifestyle. The manual described a situation that seemed too bizarre to be true. My babies sleep with me in the master bedroom, while my husband sleeps downstairs.
They were reed to this setup, convinced there was nothing they could do to improve the balance of power or increase the amount of love expressed in their household. They said they believed their situation was normal. For the duration of my stay with this family, I felt like I was juggling multiple concerns. The cameras were on us all day, so I was monitoring how I might be coming across to viewers.
At the same time, I was focused on creating personal connections with Ray and Tyler, so that they would trust me enough to participate in healing work for themselves and for the planet once it became my turn to organize our time together. During the first half of my week there, I was thinking ahead to what rule changes I wanted to offer to the family, and during the second half I negotiated with the director how to frame the messages I wanted to communicate.
I was also conscious of using emotion to highlight the issues most important to me, as I figured emotional scenes were most likely to make it into the show. Through all of this, I was concerned about staying healthy, which was especially challenging during the first half when the only food available was the greasy, processed, sugary fare the family normally ate. By the time I was done and had returned home, it took about a week of eating a normal healthy diet again to recover my usual level of energy. An example of the healing work I did with the family was helping them express their resentments out loud, so that they could later negotiate with Sheila for what they wanted with more calmness.
They took turns holding onto my Wife swap community hands and shaking me, shouting what they were angry about. At the end we all felt exhausted and emotionally released, collapsing into the grass to rest. Several weeks after returning home, I learned that Sheila agreed to let Tyler quit football and take up guitar lessons. That alone made the whole week feel worth the effort.
In the meantime, of course, Sheila was learning about ecovillage life back at Maitreya Ecovillage in Oregon with my partner Rob and my son Skye. Most of the people here met her well-defended personality with grace, especially my son Skye, who connected with her well enough that she invited him to visit her in North Carolina. Rob bore the brunt of her anger, but he managed to keep calm for her entire stay. When Sheila changed the rules, she rented a Hummer, brought three puppies into the home, installed an intercom system to keep visitors at bay, forbade Rob to meditate, and brought into our home a microwave oven, processed foods, and disposable plates.
Before leaving, Wife swap community wrote a note to one of my housemates thanking him for opening her mind to new ideas, increasing my hope that an attitude of friendliness, if not unconditional love, can create healing beyond the folks in our small sustainable-living subculture. So how did the show turn out? Better than I had feared, and worse than I had hoped. The show focused on the toilet and the trash, however, without putting them in the context of our larger vision.
The fact that we use a bidet to clean our bottoms at Maitreya instead of toilet paper received a lot of air play, without mentioning that we do it to save paper, which saves trees, or mentioning the important role trees play in sequestering atmospheric carbon. The program included the idea that we add our pee to compost piles at Maitreya without including our explanation that we do so because urine contains nitrogen and other important nutrients, replacing the need for fossil-fuel-based fertilizers.
While we do collect old organic vegetables from the local health food store for our compost piles, and Wife swap community eat a vegetable from that source if it still has vitality, this s for only a fraction of our diet. It was fun laughing with friends when we viewed the episode.
Strangers are stopping us in the streets to give us hugs and thank us for representing Eugene in a good light. More opportunities are brewing.
The Science Channel, for instance, is considering filming us making solar food dehydrators. I gained confidence in my ability to connect on a heart level with people with whom I disagree. I enjoyed befriending the film crew and learning how a TV show is made. The more atmospheric carbon, Wife swap community more these algae populations grow to absorb more carbon, stabilizing the atmospheric carbon. But once the oceans warm up to a certain level as a result of human-influenced global warming, these algae die, and are no longer available to pull carbon from the air, exacerbating the problem.
Ray and Tyler understood all of this and more at the end of their lesson, and repeated what I told them about this in Wife swap community own words. They also agreed that what I was teaching was likely to be true, but they were not convinced enough by this knowledge to change their habits. My current interpretation of his answer is that folks are not going to modify their behavior on behalf of others until their basic needs are met.
His only human bond in the world appears to be with his son, and it would help him so to open his heart to caring about people and other creatures of the Earth. The work we in the communities movement and beyond are doing to help people love and cooperate with each other better are essential steps in helping our planet survive.
Would I recommend that others do it? That depends on who they are. Participating in this show allows one to reach a much broader audience than normal because the producers make the shows entertaining, while including people from a wide variety of lifestyles. If you do decide to go for this approach to sharing ideas, welcome the adventure without attachment to theand see what happens. And let me know how it turns out!
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