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I'm not so comfortable with the age difference between the two of them. I want to be able to chat about this with her, without her totally dismissing what I have to say. Does anyone have any tips on what to say? Invite him over! Meet his family. Get to know the guy. Go from there. You may find that he is not at all what you thought and he is far less likely to do something "wrong" if he knows who you are, and what your expectations of him as a friend of your daughter.
He can learn about your family and I think that creates a better open line of communication.
I agree with the other answers saying that forbidding her from doing anything won't get you very far, but I do understand your concern. Set aside some time one day to discuss it with her, but keep in mind: she's not in trouble; you are just concerned about what may happen. Maybe go out on a lunch date or picnic, something nice that says, "I love you, so let's talk and spend some time together.
Just let her know that she's in charge of herself, but as her parent, you are in charge of feeling concern and making sure she's taken care of. If you're worried about the boy taking advantage or even just pressuring her to do anything she doesn't want to, make it very clear that you're open to any and all inquiries she may have.
This way, she won't be so afraid to come to you if the need arises. It may not be fun to think about, but she may need some information that you don't want her to have as a parent, but she needs as a young adult. Keep in mind the alternative, and try to arm her with real knowledge, not the random stuff she can find on the internet or hear from her buddies at Is a senior guy dating a freshman girl weird. Personally, I think dating in high school isn't all bad nerve-wrecking for the parents, yes, but not all bad.
They're young and gaining experience in the world, learning about how people and relationships work. Just do what you, be her mother; be there for her, teach her what you know, and be her support. You can't be there physically for her all the time, but if you can start the discussion yourself, you'll be the voice that comes to mind when she needs to recall all you've taught her.
I was a freshman dating a senior. My family didn't seem comfortable at first then they met him. We have now been together five years and married for a year and a half. My parents had a sit down talk with both of us when we first started dating and there expectations If he came over we had to stay in the living room. I wasn't allowed at his house until we had been dating for two years. It may not be as bad as you think. I was never disrespected by him or taken advantage of Hope this helps.
I started dating my boyfriend when I was 16 and he was My mom had issues with it at first with the whole age thing, but once she got to know him she was okay with it. It took a little while, but now she views him as her second son and we plan on getting married after we both graduate college.
Looking back, I now understand that my mom was mostly afraid of me growing up and me dating someone so much older just made her feel like I was growing up way too fast. Your daughter is going to have to make decisions on her own; ones you don't agree with.
The best you can do is talk to her, tell her your concerns, and be there for her if her decisions backfire. Dont do anything. Tell her how you feel about it and what your concerns are. You cannot make this decision for her, she will just rebel against you and continue to see him. Talk to her like you would one of your friends in this situation. My parents told me that I couldnt date a guy that was older than me and I continued to see him behind their backs.
Get to know him and figure out their feelings for each other. My mom was uncomfortable with my boyfriend who is 4 years older. My mom saw that he cares for me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. You'll be able to tell how he feels for her.
As a freshman in Highschool, I did the same thing. Although it didnt work out my relationship lasted three years. Really you just need to talk to her, but be positive when you do while also letting her know you are uncomfortable with this situation. If you forbid her to see him, she may go behind your back and do it anyway. The best thing to do is show you support her but also are just worried. It would also be a good idea to meet him, just to make sure he is a responsible young man.
Im 16 and as a sophmores point of view, I would want my mom to show me that she is gaining trust in me and I would want to see that my mom can be really open with me about it. As long as you show her you care :. I'm the oldest of 4 girls Be open and honest with her. I like the inviting him over for dinner idea, get to know him. Talk with your daughter and set boundaries together. The more you try and control the more they'll push the boundaries. Thank gosh I have boy!! Why is she dating at 14 years old? She is too young to be dating anyone. You are just asking for trouble.
There are 9 year olds dating today.
They have to learn from their experiences. Okay as a senior in highschool, we would consider the guy in the equation to basically be a pedophile. Its gross. Senior boys aren't so good for naive young freshman girls. I'd say to cut it off. Your daughter will be upset but trust me, you'll be thanked for it later.
I am a freshman girl dating a senior guy. I have had experience with a guy from 9th, 10th, 11th, and now 12th and it seems to be that the juniors are normally the ones worse for freshman girls. Just talk to your daughter make sure she knows what it is that is concerning you so much but don't try to push him out of her life, more than likely she already knows she may only have her freshman year with him.
Their will be peer pressure on both sides so she doesn't need the stress of her parents not liking him to add on to it. Be as open to the subject as you can for then she may feel like you understand or will at least let her try to handle herself to a point. The best thing you can do in this situation is show support. If you foster that strong relationship with your daughter she will value your opinions.
Forbidding it is an act of challenging her to push the envelope on what you will accept. Spend time getting to know him and see how they interact. Share your concerns with your daughter and pay attention to you intuition if you feel something wrong is happening and always make sure that your daughter knows she can come to you to talk about anything with no judgement. Good Luck! Tell her that you are not comfortable with the fact that she is dating someone 3 years older than her. Let her know your reasons and why you think she should not see her anymore.Is a senior guy dating a freshman girl weird
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