Dating recovering alcoholics

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Dating and alcohol go hand-in-hand for many people who are on the lookout for a partner. But what is dating like for singles who are in recovery for alcohol use disorder? Here are the facts. I am an alcoholic; the kind who required chemical detoxes and rehab. I burnt my life completely to the ground, after a lot of hard work I am now in recovery and I am in Alcoholics Anonymous.

What a catch right? Although all of the above is my truth, the fact is, I am the happiest, most confident and focused now than I have ever been. Right here and right now, I am the person I always wanted to be and without being arrogant, I am rather proud of my life and who I am today. My romantic relationships have been just as troublesome as my toxic relationship with vodka.

I hold my hands up; I was a nightmare girlfriend. Recovery requires a lot of delving into our past, processing trauma and looking at our part in our own downfall without pointing fingers at others. In early recovery, it dawned on me pretty quickly that I had no relationship with myself. I did not know who I was, what my boundaries were; I barely knew what my values were. When I entered rehab init was explained to me that addiction stunts our emotional growth.

I started drinking at 17 and to me it was no coincidence that up until I entered recovery, I handled things like a moody year-old. I was all too familiar with suppressing and avoiding Dating recovering alcoholics feelings with alcohol and therefore I had little resilience and zero healthy coping strategies. With all this new found sobering truth, I was in no position to have a romantic relationship. My priority was to develop and nurture the much-needed relationship with myself.

I took on board the suggestion of waiting for a year before I would even begin to contemplate the idea of dating. I am so thankful that I did, as those early recovery days, were tough. In addition, if I had been ghosted or had my heart broken during this Dating recovering alcoholics stage of my recovery, I doubt I would be typing this blog for you now. Relapse is very real. Creating an online profile alone was pretty daunting at first. Clearly, my shame, low self-worth and fear were preventing me from owning my recovery. The way I see it, my recovery is my most cherished possession and I have to protect it at all costs.

Side note — I much prefer online dating apps that require you to answer if you drink or take drugs on your profile — pretty useful if you ask me. Before entering recovery, I had no idea what recovery was; I had zero understanding of addiction and ashamedly my perception of addicts was ignorant and quite frankly, disgusting.

I never realised how intertwined dating and alcohol are until I came into recovery. I suppose the answer to this is completely personal to you. Reflecting on my past first dates, I am always impressed when someone acknowledges my recovery and suggests an alternative. By going for coffee, mini golf or a park walk, alcohol becomes a non-issue for everyone. With this in mind, it was important for me to have people to talk through my insecurities with. One of the best gifts of recovery is the gorgeous friendships I have cultivated with women who, like me, suffer with the disease of addiction.

I never really trusted my gut in the past — probably because it was filled to the brim with vodka — but now I have a sober gut and I have boundaries. Keeping things simple and honest is how I try to live my life and therefore, I have to apply this to dating and relationships.

We are fully present in everything that we are doing and can enjoy the date wherever it may be and whatever we may be doing. Treat yourself to your own flowers and chocolates. Today I am sober, I am alive, and I love myself.

Melissa Rice is the co-presenter of BBC Hooked: The Unexpected Addicts Dating recovering alcoholics, a podcast dedicated to debunking the stereotypes of addicts and guiding listeners through the highs and lows of addiction and recovery. Episodes are available online. This blog was published with the permission of the author. Andy Ryan from Changing Lives shares his top tips for avoiding alcohol addiction relapse.

Do alcohol-free drinks help or hinder the road to recovery? We asked two people from both sides of the debate to share their views. Early recovery warning In early recovery, it dawned on me pretty quickly that I had no relationship with myself. Starting out Feeling confident in the relationship with myself and in my recovery, I began dating. Where do you even go on a date? As a non-drinker, is a bar really the ideal first date? Written by Melissa Rice Melissa Rice is the co-presenter of BBC Hooked: The Unexpected Addictsa podcast dedicated to debunking the stereotypes of addicts and guiding listeners through the highs and lows of addiction and recovery.

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